I know that the title of my article is obvious as shit but how else am I supposed to rephrase that? The only way that I can convey the fuckery that I've dealt with is to flat out say it. Now to put you in the same frame of mind that I am, I'm currently listening to Drake's bitter ass album, Take Care (although it's great) to put me in the mood in writing this. I've had a couple of drinks of course and I'm just letting the words fucking flow. Okay.
I'm single. I've been single for quite a while now. When it was time for me to get back on the scene I was nervous because I didn't know who was checking for me or if people were allowing me to check on them and what not. I won some and lost some. But there are two moments that have happened in the last couple of months that just grind my gears. I've had women mislead me. These muthafuckas wasted my damn time and once you waste my time that means you waste my money. Check out the scenarios.
This is sensitive because it deals with people close to me but fuck it right. This woman is like 30 years old. I'm only 24. I'm very blunt and forward with the way I approach women so it's not like I'm asking you to be my friend on some cool shit. Like my best friend says "I have enough friends, move along." Now if I go out more than once with you then there's at least some kind of realization that someone may be feeling the other. I'm sure I was feeling her way more than she was feeling me since I was the aggressor but to be honest all systems said go. I had some intel, I had great outings, I had discussions talking about where we would chill and more. I even cooked for the damn woman. Made some bomb ass vegetable lasagna.(FYI, I'm not cooking for another woman unless I already got the drawers) And after all that I have to hear about another nigga in Florida and that her heart is elsewhere? Come the fuck on. If that was the case why lead me on a goose chase? Why make me think I was still in the running when I was not? I have no problem with females being honest with me. It makes me respect you even more if you can tell me "Hey I'm talking to someone else right now so it's just not a good time." Like even though I'll still crush on you if I hang out with you it's my choice to go down that road. So I was mislead but what am I doing to do about it? Absolutely nothing. Just move on.
This one I just laugh at because it's so ridiculous. You ever have those situations when you're out with your friend and she tells you "Hey I got someone you would like." I peeped the picture, got the BBM (Yeah I still got that blackberry!) and kept it moving right there. I should have known something was up when shorty tried to cancel the first date we were about to go on. Since I didn't know why she was canceling I just thought it was because of some serious shit. WRONG! You thinking about canceling dates because of beef with your sister or whatever the fuck it was? Nah son. We still went out and had a good time and texted and all that good stuff. After not seeing each other for a long time I eventually took her out again and went to a concert. I don't say this often but if I could rewind time and get that time back I would. Shorty was talking about her exboyfriend and how he treated her. I thought this was a test so I stayed with it. But at the same time I thought this was a test I kept it funky and shifted the conversation. I guess it opened up a can of worms because all that woman would talk about was her exboyfriend and how much of a dick he was. Okay. Cool. It came to a point that I had to tell her "Hey, do you tell all the dudes that are interested in you about your ex?" She had the nerve to say "Oh you're interested in me?" COME ON! If I had insurance on my phone I would have thrown it out the window. She wasn't over her ex. That's fair. But straight out the gate, tell me that. I don't need to be fishing around for why you feel some kind of way or why I walk into the restaurant and you got the saddest face ever like someone killed your mom thrice times. She ended up getting back with her ex days later after I stopped hitting her up and I have yet to tell my friend that she owes me one but she knows.
At the end of the day, lady or man, don't mislead folks. If you don't know how to keep it funky and real then you should just kill yourself and lie in a ditch. I'm old enough to keep it mature when you tell me the truth. I won't spazz or call you a bitch or do anything crazy. That's what being single is. That's what being single is all about. You have ups and downs. I've dealt with my ups but I've dealt with downs as well. (Especially this cuffing season. I got the game all fucked up!) Do you have any stories to share? Agree or disagree with anything I said? Let me know in the comment section!